Lithsexual (also called Lithosexual, Akoisexual, Akoinesexual) is a sexual orientation for those who may experience sexual attraction but does not want it reciprocated. The person may be uncomfortable at the thought of someone being sexually attracted to them, or they may lose their sexual feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. As such, Lithsexuals do not feel compelled to seek out sex or a sexual relationship.
Lithsexual can be a sexual orientation on its own or can combined with other orientations. For example, one could be Lithsexual and Polysexual, meaning that when one does experience sexual attraction it's towards some but not all genders.
It is a sexual orientation on the Asexual Spectrum, and more broadly, the A-spectrum.
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Etymology
Lithos means "stone" in Greek.
History
The Lith- prefix has been credited to Ian of Tumblr blog StopAnthropomorphizingMe for its partner (Lithromantic) and himself (Lithsexual along with stone).Cite error: Invalid <ref> tag;
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Due to a claim of appropriating lesbian culture, some people have attempted to replace the term Lithsexual with Akoisexual, an alternate name coined by CisphobeOfficial on May 18, 2014.[1] This is due to the fact that Lithos, the word Lithsexual comes from, means "stone". In the lesbian community a stone lesbian is a lesbian who is okay with being the giver of sex acts, but not with being the receiver of sex acts. Because of that "lithsexual" could potentially be interpreted as being related to this term. Ian have talked about the claims and refuted it, explaining Lith- and stone are different, similar but not the same. How it is not appropriation when it's a new term that just draws on a similar one.Cite error: Invalid <ref> tag;
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| “ | But drawing on pre-established terminology when you create new terminology isn’t appropriative. It’s just linguistics. |
| — Ian of StopAnthropomorphizingMe, Tumblr May 2014 |
Ian also talked about how stones are not even all women and/or Lesbians, when historically transmasculine people and Lesbians have blurred the lines for decades.[2]
There has not been any consensus about the term, both in the Asexual and Lesbian community. There is no apparently evidence that the specific term "Lithsexual" or "Lithosexual" was ever commonly used by Lesbians. Currently Lithosexual, Lithosexual, and Akoisexual are used interchangeably.