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{{Orientation|image1=[[Greysexual.png]]|caption1=|type=[[Amative]], [[Aspec]], [[Acespec]], [[Greyspec]]|exclusivity=|coined_by=UnknownAVEN user KSpaz|coining_date=UnknownApril 12, 2006}}
'''Greysexual''', '''Greyasexual''', or '''Grey-Asexual''' and sometimes shortened as '''Grace''' or '''Grey-Ace''' (also spelled with Gray instead of Grey) is a sexual orientation for those who relate with Asexuality, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren't fully described by the word [[Asexual]].
* Feeling unsure about how to identify sexual attraction or how to draw the line between sexual and non-sexual, and consequently feeling unsure about having experienced it or not.
* Experiencing attraction that is only ambiguously sexual.
* Feeling alienated from romancesex.
* Feeling attraction only in specific circumstances.
* Finding Asexuality a useful idea, even if it isn't a perfect fit.
Greysexual can also be combined with other sexual orientations. For example, one could be greysexual and [[Bisexual]] (greybisexualGreybisexual), meaning that one rarely experiences sexual attraction, but when they do it's towards two or more genders.
==History==
The concept of Greysexuality developed in the early 2000s on the AVEN forums.<ref>[https://pianycist.wordpress.com/2013/05/08/the-development-of-gray-asexuality-and-demisexuality-as-identity-terms/ The development of Gray Asexuality and Demisexuality as identity terms]</ref> In 2003, an AVEN member proposed the concept of "Semisexuality," naming a half-way point between being Asexual and not. Later, in 2006, AVEN member KSpaz proposed the term "Gray-A" to describe the "fuzzy" space in the [[Acespec|Asexual Spectrum]].<ref>[https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/15539-gray-as/#entry419520 Gray-A's]</ref>
Later, in April 12, 2006, AVEN member KSpaz proposed the term "Gray-A" to describe the "fuzzy" space in the [[Acespec|Asexual Spectrum]].<ref>[https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/15539-gray-as/?tab=comments#comment-419520 Gray-A's coining by KSpaz]</ref>
==Related Terms==
*[[Demisexual]]
*[[Fraysexual]]
*[[Lightgreysexual]]
''For a more comprehensive list, see [[:Category:Greyspec|Category:Greyspec]]
===See Also===
*[[Greyromantic]]
*[[Grey-]]
*[[Greyspec]]
==Gallery==
===Flags===
The greysexualGreysexual flag was designed by Milith Rusignuolo and was via uploaduploaded to Wikipedia on June 21, 2013.<ref>[http://web.archive.org/web/20180210192310/https://avia-viridis.neocities.org/flags.html Milith Rusignuolo's flags, Archived]</ref> It was supposed to be symbolic of someone starting out with no sexual attraction, represented by '''purple''' representing asexualityAsexuality, then entering a single episode of it attraction ('''grey''' to '''white''') with '''white''' representing [[Allosexual|allosexualityAllosexuality]] from the asexualAsexual flag, and then going back to being asexualAsexual.
An alternate Greysexual flag was designed by Reddit user u/AkidIguess on November 22, 2020. The user and the post itself has since been deleted.<ref>[https://www.reddit.com/r/QueerVexillology/comments/jyyjw4/you_all_seemed_to_enjoy_my_new_grayromantic_flag/ u/AkidIguess' Greysexual flag, Deleted]</ref>
On December 3rd, 2020 a second greyasexual flag was coined by a user going by Angel. The darker shades represent occasional sexual attraction, the mid-way shades represent being on the ace spectrum, the lightest shades represent feeling no sexual attraction, and the white represents community. <sup>[https://lgbta.wikia.org/f/p/4400000000000048212/r/4400000000000108988 <nowiki>[6]</nowiki>]</sup>▼
▲On December 3rd, 2020 a second greyasexualGreyasexual flag was coined by aAngel userof goingWikia byuser [https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/User:Cryptocrew#Angel: Cryptocrew]. The '''darker shades''' represent occasional sexual attraction, the '''mid-way shades''' represent being on the aceAsexual spectrumSpectrum, the '''lightest shades''' represent feeling no sexual attraction, and the '''white''' represents community. <supref>[https://lgbta.wikia.org/f/p/4400000000000048212/r/4400000000000108988 <nowiki>[6Angel of Cryptocrew's Greysexual flag]</nowikiref><ref>[https://archive.is/4DMBs Angel of Cryptocrew's Greysexual flag, Archived]</supref>
The third alternate greysexualGreysexual flag was designed by Reddit user [https://www.reddit.com/user/adeltae/ u/adeltae] on April 19, 2021. The '''black''' represents no sexual attraction, the '''dark grey''' represents very little sexual attraction, the '''purple''' represents conditional sexual attraction, the '''light grey''' represents some sexual attraction, but not as much as allosexualAllosexual people, and the '''white''' represents community.<ref>[https://www.reddit.com/r/Greysexuality/comments/mwl6z5/potential_new_greysexual_flag/ U/adeltae's Greysexual flag]</ref><ref>[https://archive.is/P53nW u/adeltae's Greysexual flag, Archived]</ref>
Two Grey-Ace flags were created by Reddit user [https://www.reddit.com/user/droppedyourcutlery/ U/droppedyourcutlery] on June 25, 2021.<ref>[https://archive.is/quurG U/droppedyourcutlery's two Gray-Ace flags, Archived]</ref> One has it's purple as the outer stripes and one has the purple as the middle stripe.
On June 27, 2021, another flag was submitted by nyoomsterNyoomster on the LGBTA+ wikiwikia discord. The flag should recapturerecaptures the feeling that comes with being in a grey zone, signalised by the grey boardersborders surrounding the purple colors of the aceAce spectrumSpectrum. The purples have been given a slightly darker and refined shade to hint at the uncertainty that may come with being greysexualGreysexual and to give it a more modern and easy to recognise look.▼
▲On June 27, 2021, another flag was submitted by nyoomster on the LGBTA+ wiki discord. The flag should recapture the feeling that comes with being in a grey zone, signalised by the grey boarders surrounding the purple colors of the ace spectrum. The purples have been given a slightly darker and refined shade to hint at the uncertainty that may come with being greysexual and to give it a more modern and easy to recognise look.
<gallery>
File:Greysexual.png|Greysexual flag (Milith Rusignuolo, June 2013.)
File:Graysexual.png|Another alternate Greysexual flag (u/AkidIguess, November 2020.)
File:Greysexual (2).png|Alternate Greysexual flag (Angel, December 2020.)
File:Gray Asexual (2).png|Another alternative Grey-Ace flag, unknown origin but was used in the ‘:heartgrayace:’ emoji on the spectrum discord server
File:Potential_Grayce.png|Alternate Greysexual flag (u/adeltae, December 2020.)
File:Grey-Ace.png|An alternate Grey-Ace flag, one of two (u/droppedyourcutlery, June 2021.)
File:Grey-Ace (2).png|An alternate Grey-Ace flag, the other of the two (u/droppedyourcutlery, June 2021.)
File:Greysexual (3).png|Alternate Greysexual flag (Nyoomster, June 2021.)
</gallery>
===Coining===
<gallery>
Gray-A Coining.png|The coining of Gray-A, 2006.
</gallery>
{{Quote|Alright, so don't know if this term is already around, but if not, I'm coining it now.<br />
Gray-A<br />
Is there really a line at which point you are asexual?<br />
According to our logo there isn't. Just fuzziness.<br />
So, this thread I dedicate to our fuzzy members who may sometimes feel unsure of their asexuality/sexuality.<br />
Share your views, stories, whatever makes you think you'd like to call yourself Gray-A. <br />
I'll start: <br />
In simple terms, I have hetero attractions, can experience physical pleasure, and am indifferent (as opposed to repulsed) to the idea of having sex if it is with someone I care for (though can't imagine it for any situation without utmost trust involved).<br />
I don't get turned on and jump my boyfriend (yes, I have one), but will respond to him in touchy ways and am pleased to do so willingly, because it does feel nice. If we never had sex, I would have no problem. But if we do some day, I probably won't mind, and may enjoy it to a degree. But as of now I don't think I'll ever actively seek it out.<br />
I call myself asexual, because I am, and because I choose my label.<br />
I'm betting there has to be others out here who fit better in the gray part of the triangle better than other areas, too, and I'm curious to hear from you, so fire away!|KSpaz|AVEN April 2006}}
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[[category:Sexual Orientation]]
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