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[[File:He Him Lesbian (1).png|thumb|He/him lesbian flag.]]
[[File:He him lesbian.jpg|thumb|220x220px|The he/him lesbian flag.]] [[File:5stripehehimlesbian.png|thumb|220x220px|An alternative, 5 striped version of the he/him lesbian flag.]]A '''he/him lesbian''' or '''hesbian''' refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]] but is still a [[woman]], woman-[[Gender Alignment|aligned]], or non-aligned. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not identify as male because pronouns do not always equal gender, however, the pronouns one uses are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians- though they still identify as women through their [[sapphic]] attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]] to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender. ▼
[[File:He Him Lesbian (3).png|thumb|Alt, simpler flag.]]
[[File:He Him Lesbian (2).png|thumb|A second alt flag.]]
[[File:He Him Lesbian (4).png|thumb|Third alt flag.]]
▲[[File:He him lesbian.jpg|thumb|220x220px|The he/him lesbian flag.]] [[File:5stripehehimlesbian.png|thumb|220x220px|An alternative, 5 striped version of the he/him lesbian flag.]]A '''he/him lesbian''' or '''hesbian''' refers to a [[lesbian]] who uses he/him [[pronouns]] but is still a [[woman]], woman-[[Gender Alignment|aligned]], or non-aligned. It is a more specific form of [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conformity]] and [[crosspronoun]] usage. A he/him lesbian does not identify as male because pronouns do not always equal gender, however, the pronouns one uses are another part of [[Gender Presentation|gender expression]], just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some [[Binary Genders|binary]] individuals may feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender. Feeling a disconnect from womanhood is a common experience among lesbians- though they still identify as women through their [[sapphic]] attraction. Similarly to how some lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a [[butch]] to express this disconnect a lesbian may also refer to themself by he/him to express a disconnect from their gender.
A he/him lesbian can be a [[cisgender|cis]] woman or a [[Transgender|trans]] woman. However, the term he/him lesbians does not include trans women use who he/him pronouns ''purely'' because they are not out yet. The term he/him lesbian only include those who actively identify with and want to go by he/him pronouns. One can go by he/him pronouns exclusively, or one can be [[Multipronominal|multipronoun]].
[[Neopronoun Gay|Neopronoun gays]], [[Neopronoun Lesbian|neopronoun lesbians]], [[She/Her Gay|she/her gays]], [[They/Them Lesbian|they/them lesbians]], [[It/Its Lesbian|it/its lesbians]], [[It/Its Gay|it/its gay]] individuals and [[They/Them Gay|they/them gay]] individuals also exist.
== Controversy ==
The existence of he/him lesbians has been the subject of controversy, more so than other pronoun-sexuality contrasting identities. This is typically based on the misunderstanding he/him lesbian's gender identity and on the false assertion that an individual's pronouns must be directly associated with their gender.